Spice Up Any Relationship With the Element of Surprise

One of the most important things in a relationship is the element of surprise. When you have been together for awhile surprises are especially important because as we all know, things can get into a state of routine. You know his next move, he knows your next move and rhythmically you begin to move together. You finish each others sentences, and sometimes you don't have to speak at all-because you already know what your mate is thinking, and if it isn't good, most likely, you aren't speaking at all. A lot of people even schedule when they are going to make trips to the boudoir. I know how it is. Life gets busy- he has his schedule and you have yours. Is this ok? Well it's natural- but really, do we want just ok in life? Is that really what we are looking for? Life is a journey and I submit to you that their is no way you have learned everything there is to know about  the one you love—no matter if it's been 10 or 40 years there is a new and fresh experience waiting around every corner, every day. You just have to seize it! Say good bye to the routine. Familiar is comfort, familiar is nice, it's secure and safe. But when familiar is an every day thing, familiar can be more like stuck. When you become uncomfortable with familiar- then your cozy comfy daily routine, is more like dread and doom. Look, it's really not that hard to step out of the box. You don't have to start with grand gestures but start with the little things. This advice is for the males and the females. You can learn how to cook a new dish, change around a room in your house, [preferably the bedroom] make it hot fresh and new, you spend every night there! I know what your thinking, decorate? Yes, that is the perfect place to start. If your going to make it fresh and new, why not start with your every day surroundings! New dishes, make over for your home- ladies, you may even want to ask your man to help- he'll get exited by your take charge attitude. Don't forget accomplishing something together is just plain sexy! Women, take charge. Don't always assume the responsibility of making plans is the role of the male. Make plans, schedule hikes, picnics in the park, weekend getaways [to some place new preferably]- and one thing that will really catch him by surprise is something I like to call the mystery date. Tell him to mark the date on the calender, plan a nice dinner and then choose an event for after dinner. Blindfold him on the way and don't tell him where he's going- and let the night just be full of surprises. Men you can do this too. Just because she's yours, doesn't mean the courting should stop. Remember when you first started dating how you always put your best foot forward, bought her flowers, took her to art galleries and pampered her with gift certificates for massages? Just because shes yours doesn't mean you stop trying! You have love, it's a gift! Show your appreciation! Make her feel special! Finally, let's talk about the bedroom. Too often the comfort of familiar strikes here and you begin to believe their are no new tricks and you know exactly what they are going to do next. You get right to "it" and get it "over with". It makes me cringe when I hear people say things like this. Making love is about showing the other person how you feel about them. It's about showing the depth of your heart, sharing your soul and opening up on the most intimate level. It is supposed to be beautiful. Take it slow. Remember when you first met how you would kiss for hours and then go home and think about it for days. Start with a kiss, hold each others hands, hug. Don't just jump right to it. Spend a couple of days just loving each other, let it build. I promise, if you take it slow, by the time a few days have passed, when you do finally take the leap, it will be like it was when you first met, and you'll wonder why your always in a hurry to get it over with. Slow down and absorb each other. Wear sexy lingerie underneath your dress ladies.Yes, he knows what you look like underneath, but the prospect of seeing you in lingerie will make him feel like you did it just for him- he will be surprised every time- and don't you want him to be? For more ideas see some of my favorite pieces from my lingerie pics. Men, take your lady to pick out a new cologne and let her choose the scent she likes and then wear every day for a week [at least]. These are just a few ideas of coarse there are many more. Go to your local bookstore and find books with tips on how to be romantic. Get some fresh ideas. Life is to short to be bored. If you are in a relationship that feels stale, that doesn't mean it's over. You just to get up and take charge! Live fully- and remember, love is the greatest gift life gives us. Cherish it.